Being a present, engaged parent means intentionally offering your attention and emotional availability so attunement and timely responsiveness guide everyday interactions. That kind of presence strengthens secure attachment and helps children learn to regulate their emotions. This article lays out evidence-informed practices—grounded in attachment theory and mentalization—that busy parents can use in short, repeatable moments […]
Connection is the set of interactions and felt experiences that make people feel understood, safe, and valued, while loneliness is the subjective distress that comes when meaningful connections are missing. This article explains why relationships matter for emotional and physical health and lays out evidence-informed strategies—grounded in attachment theory, mentalization, and communication science—for building trust, […]
Effective communication combines clear expression, accurate listening, and adaptive emotional skills to create mutual understanding and productive outcomes in both personal and professional settings. This article teaches evidence-informed strategies for improving communication skills, including active listening, assertiveness training, boundary-setting, conflict resolution, and the role of empathy and emotional intelligence in conversations. Many people struggle with […]
Effective communication in a relationship means more than exchanging information; it creates emotional safety, clarifies needs, and supports lasting intimacy. When partners communicate effectively, they reduce distance, solve problems with less escalation, and strengthen trust through consistent repair attempts and mutual understanding. This article teaches practical communication skills — active listening, “I” statements, conflict resolution […]
Most people describe their childhood as “normal.” We tend to normalize our own childhood because it’s the only one we had, and we truly want to have a loving relationship with our parents. However, that wish can be so powerful that it clouds our memory and our vision, making it difficult to see our parents […]
Try this experiment: Place your full attention on something sexual for several minutes and then think about it for a little while. Afterwards, take notice if you seem to be more talkative. New research cited in a recent article by Elizabeth Bernstein says you will be. And, notably, it suggests that you will also be more inclined to reveal aspects of […]
Do you suspect that a man in your life may be depressed? Unlike women, who are often sad or weepy when depressed, men typically exhibit anger, irritability or complain of “stress.” This is in addition to other depressive symptoms, including loss of interest or pleasure; either sluggishness or agitation; change in sleep, appetite or concentration; […]
People often come to my office wishing to forgive someone, but feeling unsettled because despite their efforts, it hasn’t happened, and they are frustrated and confused. Their distress over forgiveness often brings to mind my favorite quote on the subject: My frame of mind is most peaceful. My wishes are: a modest hut, a thatched […]
In Part 1 of this article, I reviewed a study of individuals who characterized their sex lives as “great.” [1] In that study, researchers interviewed SM practitioners, people over age 65 in long-term relationships, and professional sex therapists. They then extrapolated from their descriptions six components of optimal sex. Part 1 of this article examined […]
I have a question for you . . . . . Can you recall the best sex you ever had? What made it great? Chances are it wasn’t the technique you read in Cosmo or GQ. It was likely something less tangible – perhaps indescribable. The definition of great sex has been largely […]
