Resentment grows when perceived wrongs or unmet expectations harden into repeated thoughts and defensive patterns. This piece outlines why resentment persists, how it undermines mental and physical health, and what evidence-informed steps you can take to let it go. You’ll find clear definitions, symptom checklists, therapeutic tools (like cognitive reframing and mentalization), and conversational scripts […]
Trauma changes how we feel, think, and relate to others. Practical coping strategies offer clear steps back toward safety, regulation, and meaningful connection. This guide outlines core trauma types, the neurobiology of stress responses, evidence-based therapies, daily coping tools, and phased approaches for complex trauma and C-PTSD so readers can identify appropriate next steps. You’ll […]
Self-kindness is an intentional practice of treating yourself with care, understanding, and patience when you struggle, fail, or feel uncertain. It operates by shifting patterns of self-criticism into soothing, corrective responses that reduce stress and increase emotional resilience; practicing self-compassion improves mood, motivation, and relational safety. This article explains what self-kindness is, why it matters, […]
Many people come to therapy believing that if they can just cope better, they’ll feel better. But coping and healing are not the same. Coping helps you survive, but healing helps you change. Coping manages the symptoms of pain, while healing transforms the source of it. Both are valuable, but they function differently. In this post, we’ll […]
If you’ve been struggling with symptoms of anxiety, depression, or other mental health concerns, you may have tried to diagnose yourself in an effort to understand what’s going on. This can be helpful, but it doesn’t help you understand why you feel this way. In the realm of mental health, a diagnosis fails to provide […]
People often come to my office wishing to forgive someone, but feeling unsettled because despite their efforts, it hasn’t happened, and they are frustrated and confused. Their distress over forgiveness often brings to mind my favorite quote on the subject: My frame of mind is most peaceful. My wishes are: a modest hut, a thatched […]
