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Assertive Boundaries: Tips from Dr. Lena Agree

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Build Assertiveness and Confident Communication SkillsExpress Yourself with Confidence: Practical Steps to Build Assertiveness and Stronger Communication

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Confident self-expression means saying what you need and think with clarity, calm, and respect—while protecting relationships and your integrity. This guide lays out why assertiveness matters at home and at work, how to strengthen communication skills, and which evidence-based therapies and coaching approaches speed real progress. Many people struggle with fear of speaking up, social anxiety, perfectionism, or people-pleasing patterns that undermine negotiation, leadership, and connection; the strategies here address those core drivers. You’ll find step-by-step assertiveness practices, daily routines to build self-efficacy, therapeutic and coaching pathways for social anxiety and high-stakes conversations, and practical boundary-setting scripts you can rehearse. The article also includes comparison tables, anonymized case vignettes showing outcomes, and focused tips for executives, adolescents, and couples to…

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The False Promise of Forgiveness

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People often come to my office wishing to forgive someone, but feeling unsettled because despite their efforts, it hasn’t happened, and they are frustrated and confused. Their distress over forgiveness often brings to mind my favorite quote on the subject: My frame of mind is most peaceful. My wishes are: a modest hut, a thatched roof, but a good bed, good food, milk and butter – very fresh, flowers in front of my window, beautiful trees outside my door and if the good Lord wishes to make me completely happy, he lets me have the joy of seeing hanged on those trees about six or seven of my enemies. Deeply moved, I shall forgive them before they die, all the…

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