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Dr. Lena Agree, JD, PsyD – Licensed Psychologist and AssociatesDr. Lena Agree, JD, PsyD – Licensed Psychologist and Associates

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The Difference Between Coping and Healing – and Why it Matters

The Difference Between Coping and Healing – and Why it Matters

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Many people come to therapy believing that if they can just cope better, they’ll feel better. But coping and healing are not the same. Coping helps you survive, but healing helps you change. Coping manages the symptoms of pain, while healing transforms the source of it. Both are valuable, but they function differently. In this post, we’ll explore the crucial difference between coping and healing, why it matters for your emotional growth, and how therapy can help you move beyond survival toward genuine, lasting well-being. What Is Coping? Coping strategies are the things we do to manage distress in the moment. They don’t necessarily change the root cause of our pain, but they make it more bearable and keep us afloat when…

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The Negative Effects of Technology on Teens – and How to Help

The Negative Effects of Technology on Teens – and How to Help

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Written by Aleena Hellebyuck, MA, CAADC-DP Learn how social media, screen time, and online culture are shaping your teen’s emotional health and what you can do to help them build balance, resilience, and self-esteem in a digital world. The Digital World Teens Are Growing Up In Technology is woven into nearly every aspect of modern teenage life. From smartphones and social media to gaming and streaming platforms, adolescents are living in a world that’s always online. While digital tools provide connection and creativity, they can also contribute to anxiety, comparison, and overstimulation,  all of which affect emotional well-being and development. As a therapist, I often hear parents say, “I don’t even recognize my child anymore — they seem anxious, withdrawn, or distracted…

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How to Change into the Person You Wish You Were

How to Change into the Person You Wish You Were

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Written by Jodi Leib Coden, MA When you envision your life five, 10, or even 25 years into the future – who’s standing there waiting for you? Most of us immediately picture others: a loving partner, playful children, colleagues and friends, and maybe even a loyal pet. You may imagine achievements such as winning an award, having a happy and healthy marriage, or building your dream house. But the most powerful aspect of that vision isn’t what’s around you – it’s who you’re becoming. Not just a richer or more successful you, but a wiser, more grounded, more fully embodied version of yourself. The you who’s walked through the chaos of today and emerged on the other side – radiant,…

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How to Overcome Inner Chaos with Embodied Intelligence

How to Overcome Inner Chaos with Embodied Intelligence

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Written by Jodi Leib Coden, MA Have you ever wished your emotions came with a user manual? Welcome to the world of Drama Therapy and the Emotional Navigation System (ENS) — a powerful, embodied approach to emotional regulation, intuitive decision-making, and inner guidance. We all possess an internal compass — an innate system of emotional signals embedded in the architecture of our nervous system. Some people, however, have become disconnected from this guidance. In emotionally difficult moments, instead of tuning in, we tune out, reaching for external sources of clarity: friends, family, experts, even Google. But what if the most trustworthy wisdom was already inside you? Understanding Your ENS: A Psychophysiological Perspective Your Emotional Navigation System is not metaphorical; it’s…

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Are you stressed out? Here are 10 Signs that you might be.

Are you stressed out? Here are 10 Signs that you might be.

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Written by Jessica Guobis, MA, CAADA-DP As a therapist, one of the things I hear most often is some version of this sentence: “I didn’t realize how stressed I was until I finally slowed down.” Sometimes people don’t notice until they’re sitting in my office, describing their week, and suddenly connecting the dots between headaches, irritability, restless nights, and constant tension. Other times they come in convinced that their “problem” is laziness, relationship conflict, or a lack of motivation when, in reality, stress is quietly pulling the strings in the background. Stress is sneaky like that. We expect it to look like long nights at work, panic attacks, or obvious overwhelm. But often, it disguises itself in subtle everyday ways…

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Getting Divorced? How to Help Your Child Thrive

Getting Divorced? How to Help Your Child Thrive

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Written by Aleena Hellebyuck, MA, CAADC-DP Even though a divorce is typically about disagreements between two partners, the impact of divorce can take a toll on everyone in the household… especially children. While you are navigating the ending of your relationship, there are many things that children need to feel stability and support through these life transitions. One option to consider is to invest in counseling for divorced parents, which can help you and your ex-partner work together to ensure your children feel secure. What Is Parenting (Co-Parenting) Counseling? Counseling for divorced parents focuses on helping former partners develop effective co-parenting skills to resolve their disagreements, allowing them to prioritize their children’s well-being. Traditional therapy is often structured for partners…

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How to Restore Trust and Communication in Your Relationship

How to Restore Trust and Communication in Your Relationship

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Written by Aleena Hellebyuck, MA, CAADC-DP Do you feel hopeless because your relationship communication is breaking down, and you don’t know how to rebuild the trust that has been lost? Rest assured knowing that your relationship isn’t “too far gone.” There are many benefits of couples therapy that can help you rebuild foundations in your relationship and reconnect with each other in a stronger partnership. Whether you’re facing a major crisis in life or simply want to take a proactive approach in strengthening your connection, our team is here to help every step of the way. Why Communication and Trust Matter Most in Relationships It’s no surprise that communication and trust are the foundation of every healthy relationship. Without them,…

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How Your Attachment Patterns Sabotage Your Happiness (and How to Break Free)

How Your Attachment Patterns Sabotage Your Happiness (and How to Break Free)

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If you struggle with feelings of depression, flatness, anxiety, anger, or other unpleasant symptoms, you have your attachment system to blame. Attachment is an innate, unconscious system that tells you from infancy, that you must stay close to your your parents because you need them to protect you from physical danger, illness and overwhelming emotional distress (Bowlby 1988). This is what makes little kids cling to their moms in public places. They just know, “Mom keeps me alive.” This isn’t learned behavior; it’s more like an instinct. It gets “turned on” in response to real or perceived threats to your survival and well-being, such as when you’re tired, hungry, or frightened, or separated from your parents.  The problem is, it…

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How a Diagnosis Can Prevent You from Getting Better

How a Diagnosis Can Prevent You from Getting Better

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If you’ve been struggling with symptoms of anxiety, depression, or other mental health concerns, you may have tried to diagnose yourself in an effort to understand what’s going on. This can be helpful, but it doesn’t help you understand why you feel this way. In the realm of mental health, a diagnosis fails to provide enough information and can even be misleading. Psychiatric diagnoses are labels determined by a list of symptoms that are mostly behavioral, meaning, they describe things you’re doing or not doing (like sleeping, or eating). Most diagnoses require a threshold number of symptoms, such as four out of nine. This means a single diagnosis can encompass many – even dozens – of different experiences (American Psychiatric…

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Do You Have Toxic Parents?

Do You Have Toxic Parents?

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Most people describe their childhood as “normal.”  We tend to normalize our own childhood because it’s the only one we had, and we truly want to have a loving relationship with our parents. However, that wish can be so powerful that it clouds our memory and our vision, making it difficult to see our parents clearly and objectively. So, if you are an adult who is depressed or anxious, how do you know if your relationship with your parents has something to do with it? You may or may not have negative memories of your parents from childhood. But how can you tell if your current relationship with them is healthy or “normal”? How would you know if your desire…

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